The allure of missed opportunities

How many times have you been in a hardware store or in the grocery store or filling your car’s gas tank, and you make eye contact with a person who you are immediately drawn to? And the amazing thing is that in this magical moment, the other person seems utterly smitten with you, too? In other words, the attraction is not unrequited; it’s reciprocated. But, for whatever reason, despite the gravitational pull, you don’t act on the attraction. Instead, it slips through your hands.

Here in ABQ, we have a great weekly newspaper called the Alibi. When a new edition is published, I immediately turn to the “I Saw You” section. This is where people publish little ads hoping to (re)connect with a person they encountered but were unable to approach. I absolutely love reading these ads. I wonder how often the ads lead to successful (re)unions? I am fascinated with the details one person notices about another person. In this week’s issue, some of the “I can’t stop thinking about you” details include:

  • Sexy, silky, yellow dress
  • Barefoot at the swap meet
  • Breathtaking smile
  • Nice breasts
  • White bathing suit
  • Sitting under an umbrella, reading
  • Captivating eyes
  • Dressed in a kilt
  • You smiled at me
  • Buying wine and cake mix at the grocery store

Sophie Blackall has a blog that is dedicated to missed opportunities and connections. Her site contains whimsical drawings that reflect the “tone” of the “I saw you” ad. In a succinct and poetic manner, Sophie describes missed opportunities:

Every day hundreds of strangers reach out to other strangers on the strength of a glance, a smile or a blue hat. Their messages have the lifespan of a butterfly. I’m trying to pin a few of them down.

The next time someone catches your eye, here’s my advice: Be brave. Say hello. Smile. Make it a big smile. Go ahead, show your teeth! 😉

You never know where your bravery may take you. And this is exciting!


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